Let go of your grudges

Let Go Of Your Grudges
 
As we approach the New Year, it=92s a =
good time to=20
clean out the clutter in our lives.
 
That means disposing of useless papers =
and unused=20
stuff but also throwing away old grudges.
 
The prevalence and durability of =
grudges proves=20
Maya Angelou=92s observation that people don=92t always remember what =
you said or=20
did, but they do remember how you made them feel.
 
Grudges are nothing more than toxic =
memories of how=20
someone made us feel.
 
But Confucius taught that “To be =
wronged is nothing=20
unless we continue to remember it.” So why do so many of us choose to=20
consciously preserve and revisit toxic feelings that detract from our=20
happiness?
 
Perhaps we fool ourselves into thinking =
we can=20
inflict some sort of pain on the person who wronged us. In fact, holding =
on to a=20
grudge is like holding on to a hot stone.
 
It doesn=92t hurt the stone or the =
person who gave it=20
to us; it only hurts the one holding it. Carrying a grudge is like being =
stung=20
to death by one bee.
 
It doesn=92t matter how justified the =
bitter feelings=20
are or how right we are. Holding on to a grievance turns pain into =
suffering. In=20
a peculiar way it empowers the wrongdoer to hurt us again and=20
again.
 
So start out this New Year by giving =
yourself a=20
great gift. Muster the good sense and strength to root out and release=20
deep-seated and long-held resentments.
 
If you can, forgive and forget. But all =
that=92s=20
really necessary is a firm decision to let go of
 
Michael Josephson
 
________________________
 
Where there is sadness, I hope I =
brought some=20
laughter. Where there is grief, I hope I offered some comfort. Where =
there is=20
hate, I hope some love was found here. Where there is doubt, I hoped I =
showed=20
you words of faith.
 
 
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